·6 min
Why fewer, not more.
The big apps optimise for endless choice. We optimise, deliberately, for a small and considered community. Here is why that is the entire point.
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The Undate Journal
On intentional dating.
Essays from the people building Undate and from a small group of writers, therapists, and researchers we trust. We publish slowly. We publish when we have something to say.
·9 min
The anxious-avoidant trap.
One of the most-cited findings in attachment research is that anxious-avoidant pairings are the most likely to dissolve. Why dating apps quietly amplify them.
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·7 min
What the algorithm cannot do.
The research is humbling: what people say they want before meeting barely predicts how a relationship turns out. So why are we still building rankers?
Full essay coming soon.
·11 min
A defence of the curator.
The human matchmaker has quietly been the most loved dating product for decades. What thoughtful software can do to help, rather than replace, them.
Full essay coming soon.